2018/06/16
FAMILY INTERRUPTED! THEN DESTROYED!
SATURDAY JUNE 16, 2018
WE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME!
IT BEGAN ON MARCH 02, 2006–
Can you imagine not being with your precious love ones! – I’m speaking of your darling and much beloved grandchildren? Now add to that of you aren’t able to see them when you want or even, you are denied from continuous visiting’s.Family! You’d think that the Agency! would want to help the families stay together. And not disrupt the children’s lives. One would assume that, But however, that’s not the way it went down. At least for my daughters’ children!
Tragedy! Pure Tragedy! You know I am still in disbelief over this painful turn of events! It seems as if it was just yesterday that this has occurred. Everyday I am reminded that my grandchildren have been betrayed and let down by the system!
Compliance! Doing what needs to be done in order to see that my grandchildren are returned home to where they belong! Well this is what took place:
I went from Sparks, Nevada to Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, then to Modesto, California. All out of love to have my only grandchildren be back in my life! Well It was relayed to me that THE JUDGE – RICHARD KIRBY, had informed the state foster care worker that I was never to get my grandchildren.
Going back and forth to court in OKC,OK – Oh! It was a nightmare! And that was putting it lightly. I was denied my foster care license as I was preparing to get certified. The agency’s DHS, had informed the placement agency that I wasn’t to be certified to get my grandchildren. Also I was even denied a home visit by the state to go over the home that I’d rented in Oklahoma. They even implied that I was a felon! Of course that was false! Also during that time I was even threatened with jail for speaking out to the media. Of which I had to get a lawyer for myself. Can you imagine?
It’s been years now and the pain is still with me, very much every bit of real and present! How can one heal from something like this? I can assure you that it’s not easy. I look at my grandchildren’s pictures so much till the picture is becoming fade and worn. Every day it hurts and I believe that I will forever live and relive that pain everyday of my life.
I’M A GRANDMOTHER! AND I CAME FORTH AS A GRANDPARENT WOULD AND SHOULD! RIGHT! WELL I DONE JUST THAT! BUT WAS DENIED AT EVERY REQUEST!
My grandchildren have been exposed to so much from being in that foster care system. I can’t even begin to imagine what they have experienced and exposed to! Certainly, I know that they were scared and frightened. They didn’t know what was going on. They knew that they were taken from their family and put all over the place in different placement and not having any regular visitation with their siblings! They were given medication – I know on one visitation with one of my grandchildren and during the visit he just was so drugged that he passed out. You could look at him and know that he was over medicated!
Can you imagine seeing your child or grandchild in that state? For me it was painful and emotional!
Our families are precious and we don’t need the state agencies taking our children and passing them out on to the ADOPTION PLATFORM! WHICH IS WHAT THEY DO. That needs to be put a stop to. Better Yet! The foster care system needs to be overhauled and repaired. Our children once they become involved with the foster care system they become emotionally damaged especially the longer that they are out of the home the worst they become.
This is the year of 2018 and my grandchildren were taken in the year of 2006. Can you imagine not being able to be in the lives of your little ones? My family has lost so much. We will never be able to get those years back. That’s all gone!
Well since then my grandchildren have grown and they all now have a different mind-set and my grandchildren as I once knew them are now all on different venues. They have all been in different homes and placement and pretty much away from their siblings!
My grandchildren are my heart and even though they aren’t the ages that they were when the ordeal first started! I still love them and nothing changes that love that I have for them.
A GRANDMOTHER’S LOVE IS PERMANENT AND NEVER FADES! A GRANDMOTHER’S LOVE IS FOREVER AND EVER GUARANTEED! ALWAYS AND FOREVER IN MY HEART:
MY GRANDSONS : I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU AND YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN!
MELVIN BENJAMIN JR
MICHAEL WALKER 4
MIZAEL WALKER
TERIQ MAY
ERIC DAVIS JR
SAMUEL MCCOY JR – WITH HIS FATHER
MY GRANDCHILDREN! MY GRANDCHILDREN, THEY ARE MY LIFE AND MY EVERYTHING! FOR SURE MY LIFE HAVE CHANGED FROM THIS ORDEAL! AND THAT’S AN UNDERSTATEMENT! I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME! I’M IN PAIN ON A DAILY BASIS FROM NOT BEING IN MY GRANDSONS’ LIVES!IT HURTS AND HURTS REALLY BAD! THAT DEEP HURT AND EMOTIONAL PAIN THAT’S LODGED IN YOUR HEART! THAT YOU CAN NEVER GET RID OF!
FAMILIES ARE TO BE CHERISED!
TO MY GRANDCHILDREN IF YOU COME ACROSS THIS: I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH. YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN! YOU ARE FOREVER IN MY HEART! AND I AM SORRY THAT THE SYSTEM FAILED YOU AND US AS A FAMILY! I’M SORRY FOR ALL THAT YOU BOYS SUFFERED WHILE BEING IN THAT AWFUL FOSTER CARE SYSTEM! I’M PRAYING FOR YOU BOYS, NOW YOUNG MEN AND FOR US AS A FAMILY! YOU ARE LOVED AND NOT FORGOTTEN! LOVE ALWAYS YOUR GRANDMOTHER: FARINA THOMPSONFAMILIES ARE TO BE CHERISED!
Not be destroyed and children adopted out or kept in foster care till they age out of the system!
The ordeal that my family faced and experienced should never be. I mean that no one should have to have their kids or grandkids in the system especially when you have a family member come forth and claim the children and be there for them. One should not be denied! Yet! That’s what happened to me.
I’m not a felon. Nor did I need the states money to raise my grandchildren. And I had even moved – relocated to OK! That wasn’t enough! I had ample space for all of my grandchildren. Everything was ready and put into place. Yet! Everything I done and requested was either denied, derailed, refused or ignored by the JUDGE AND DHS!
OKLAHOMA DHS AND THE JUDGE DESTROYED AND SHATTERED OUR FAMILY, OUR HOME, AND OUR LIVES.
We are changed forever from this intrusion!
Will we ever be able to heal and recover from this!
Will we ever be able to heal and recover from this?
My grandchildren, they have gone through so much since being in that foster care system! I’m truly heartbroken over it! I love them and I’m in pain over all that they have gone through and endured. All the emotions, pain and suffering they have been subjected to. Deeply scarred they are now, no doubt! I feel their pain as well!
THE SYSTEM ARE DESTROYING AND KILLING OFF OUR FAMILIES! CAUSING GREAT EMOTIONAL DAMAGE TO OUR CHILDREN! CHILDREN ARE TO BE LOVED AND CHERISED! NOT EXPLOITED BY THE DHS/CPS/FOSTER CARE AGENCY – OUR BABIES AND CHILDREN THEY NEED TO BE SAVED FROM THE SYSTEM!
SURELY CHANGE NEEDS TO COME! NOT ENOUGH HAS BEEN DONE TO CORRECT THIS VITAL ISSUE AT HAND.
EVERY DAY IS A JOURNEY!
FARINA M THOMPSON/ RENO NEVADA / SATURDAY JUNE 16, 2018
